First Impressions: Ooops!
Wednesday, April 29th, 2009What is the first impression people get of you?? Ever really thought about it? Examined it? Care about it? I do. And let me tell you, after this, you just might. This is really about perceptions. One of my closest friends this term, almost never even talked to me! I thought she was rude and completely stuck up, she thought I was shy and too introspective. What changed? I began to notice on my walks to class, from class, on tours, from tours that I saw her everywhere. She was in the computer lab when I was. I finally took it upon my self to say, “Hi”. ”Hey.” That was it. That Hi-Hey Relationship lasted about a week. I went into a writing lab about a month ago, and I saw mystery chick in there…yet again! Rather than thinking she was stuck up, I got some guts, went up to her and I finally said, “Well, so I’m Klyn and I see you everywhere.” ”OMG! I know! I didn’t want to say Hi to you because I was afraid you wouldn’t recognize me.” Think about that… both of us afraid to stick our necks out to make a friend because we weren’t sure what the other person thought of us, or what we really thought of them. How many people, do you suppose this type of thinking prevents us from meeting? When we are out in the real world, how many people have our dream job that we may have met in college- that we were too intimidated by to simply say, “Hi.”? I am guessing, that it is more common than we realize. In my life, once I get an idea, I typically share it with most everybody I feel it is relevant to. I was telling this theory of, you just never know who you see every day, to my dad when he said something rather intriguing:”Klyn, describe yourself to me. Describe yourself as a friend would. Describe yourself as an enemy would. Are you the person you want to be?” So I did. I answered that question. I challenge you this week before finals, to really stick yourself out there. Say “Hi” to that person you see all the time that you don’t know yet. You may be shocked at just how similar your lives really are. Lastly, describe yourself those 3 ways. And then study for finals. P.S. Emily, I like iced coffee too!